Anger is a feeling, an expression. It has become a very common expression I can say. Lot of factors contributing to this could be – loneliness, frustration about not getting something you desired, ego, irritation, desire to please others but not being successful, low trust factor, low confidence, insecurities, all these things are very common in today’s life. Some people feel very proud to tell that they have a very bad temper and some men especially find it very manly to be hotheaded.
Lot of people including myself are moving towards spirituality, trying to get rid of stress and anger. I have a friend in the U.S and she says that every night she sleeps listening to some philosophical talks of a Swamiji and it helps her get a sound sleep. Another friend uses blogs to let free her stress. Each one is desperately finding ways to let out their inner self coz they don’t have anybody to listen to them.
Life is always hectic for most of us and the Rat Race syndrome has got on to us. As a child and even till today, one thing that shakes me is when someone expresses anger or raises voice. Being brought up in a very calm atmosphere, disturbances did not have much scope and were very few. And today if I look at myself, I am listening / facing these nuances almost everyday. Why? Is God making up for all these days? I really wonder. Sometimes I don’t know how to handle this, how to react to this, and I feel numb. Does this happen to you as well? I am not requesting for an Anger Management talk here, but just want to know if this is as common as what I am assuming it to be?
Handling temper is very important. Not many people realize that every action has an impact. If one does several good things but has a very bad temper, all the good things take a second stand and only the bad things stay afresh and take time to heal. If one does not know how to have self control over his/her own actions, then what have you achieved in life? There are ways to control anger, self-introspection, good hobbies, music especially to relax your soul, good disciplined routine, etc.
It is not good to be too impulsive and express anger always. We need to think before reacting coz there are people who may depend on us or who look up to us. Feeling more responsible and aware of our own self will help to make us mature I guess.
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Anger is always a Sweet companion to have. i love anger as it protects u in all ways. but don;t categorize Anger and Frustration, loneliness, irritation with anger.. even though its a related sibling to anger i would say attributes are pretty much closer to Cowardness.
Why anger is sweet when it is applied at right way ?
first thing is our tamil patti( ur ajji ) told. - Rowthiram pazaghu. means Learn anger.
she never meant anger is good. she said Learn anger. that means exhibit anger is a right way turns people to higher segment. thats what she says. :)
one such good example which is very much common in all house..
when ur a kid and if u do any mistake then mom(s) Anger management says "dei inga paru if u repeat the same Appaketa nalla beating vanga pora" - @ those times u never know ur dad will get angry to this r not. but its just anger management to make sure things are fine. similary dad also say the same thing if u do this amma will come and beat u.. thats the very balanced environment..
so anger should be throwed out right time ... drain it out. by talking, walking, music which ever suits for ur personlity.
further i strongly self introspection is "The therapy for that" in tamil we say " suyavimarsam" review ur self and act on that, package it nicely.
oru chinna mis-match in listening to philosphicy.. its my personal view and subjected to change. and ment for people who seem every thing. for us its time to grow, time ot learn. time to grab thigns, time to see problems, go through problem and succesffully come out of the shell.
either u do management or not.. don;t supress anger, play it safe because there is another saying in tamil
"Naavinala suda vaadu ulaaru arathey theeyinala suda vaadu"
means if ur throw the words u can take it back. :)
don;t get irrirated, don;t get frustrated - be like janani ninuvina, be like mohanam, be like kalyani, then every thing just moves out.. :)
few other things are like
take bus conductor - daily chill-out saying get into the bus, don;t stand in the foot-board, in amore wierd way. its his way of anger management rather than pulling the collar and say get in to the bus..
take a simple tea stall with oldies.. they just crib about politics by having a sip of tea and 2Rs local news paper.. its just their way of frustration..
there are lot.. u need to take anger like that rather than leaving behind.
I would say Instead of Anger management apply anger with right pressure points. allocate unwanted pressure to others ( this rule will not applicable within tight family group ) and get away with that.
By the way - "I am one of the human being which you mentioned in ur first paragraph, Tempared , loud voice nut :(" from others perpectiye. but for me i apply correctly :)
Adiya, thanks for your reply. I definitely agree with what you said. Unfortunately or fortunately, I seldom get angry, as in really angry and react. All credit to my music and my prayers. However, my main point was why people dont control themselves? And how to deal with such instances.
Thanks again for your tips. Hope you also learn something from my words (since you said you are like my first paragraph guy...:) )
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